Wednesday, September 13, 2006

My amazing friend

Goodness the things that life can throw at you from out of the blue. The things that you think you just wouldn't be able to handle and yet another woman can handle them with such grace and dignity. I have a friend like that. I knew that she was strong but this week I have completely blown away by her. She has been thrown such a curve ball from so far out of the left field. I don't know if I could have dealt with the news she received this week with even half as much grace as she did.

The news? That her husband supposedly had an affair last year and there is now a 7 month old little boy out there that is his child. When she learned this news, initially, she was angry. But she dealt with it, and I mean quickly. She talked to her husband about this and somehow not only is she willing to forgive her husband, but she wants to welcome this child into her life. What an amazing woman.

Now the problem is that she and her husband are both worried about the child. Apparently the woman who had the child is "unstable". The two of them have talked things over and have come to a decision. They want to sue for custody of this child. My friend cannot stand the thought of a perfectly innocent little boy growing up in such an unstable environment. She wants to make sure that her husbands son grows up in a loving and healthy home. This is not what she expected at this point in her life, but if anyone can give this child the love he deserves, she is the one.

Of course, that all hinges on whether or not the child proves to be his. I mean, lets be honest here, when you have a woman (did I mention that she is a married woman?) who is willing to sleep with a married man, you have to wonder who and how many others she is whoring around with.

So they are meeting with the husband of this woman. I guess they have already made plans to meet with him in the next day or two. I don't think they have told him why they want to meet with him. They aren't exactly sure whether or not he knows that this child may not be his. So the two of them are going to meet with him and lay all the cards out on the table.

To be honest, I can't imagine this man fighting them on custody if the child proves not to be his. From what I understand, he didn't exactly want to have any more kids, so I don't think he will stand in their way when it comes to custody.

So do ya'll see why am I stand in such awe of this woman? I can't imagine finding out that my husband had cheated on me and being able to handle it with such grace. Then to find out that there is a child involved and wanting to bring that child into your home. She is such an amazingly strong and beautiful woman and I feel honored to have her in my life and to call her my friend.



pippa1116 said...

wow, she is strong and amazing.  For some couples, going through the trauma of an affair can bring them closer than ever.  That must be the case here.  And that is wonderful to be able to do that.

eeofficemgr said...

Your friend must be one heck of a woman.  I can't say I know any women that would do the same.  I hope everything works out for her.


thegirlnexdoor77 said...

You are so right....SHE is an awesome woman....too bad her husband forgot just how awesome she was!!!  I wish her all the luck in the world and she does sound like a good friend you could trust.  Take care and hugs,TerryAnn

amyrangei said...

Wow, she does sound like an amazing woman.  I would advise your friend to meet her husband in a public place.  If he doesn't know his wife was sleeping around he might want to do something to your friend's husband!  But, to want to take care of your husbands baby from another woman is absolutely amazing!


reconcilinglife said...

Your friend is a better woman than I am. Bam

bhbner2him said...

The thing is, you never really know how you will react or respond to anything until you are there.  -  Barbara