Friday, October 13, 2006

Friday the 13th and Appreciation and my life

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I just noticed it was Friday the 13th and had to go make a tag, quick like.  LOL

Here is a copy of my horoscope from the Daily OM

 October 13, 2006
Inspired By Appreciation

Capricorn Daily Horoscope

You may find yourself basking in the glow of others’ recognition and respect today as people in your home and in your workplace acknowledge the contributions you have made. As you enjoy this newfound respect, realize that the feelings it evokes within you can be a potent source of motivation and confidence. Since you are likely being validated for accomplishments that required you to go above and beyond the call of everyday duty, you may be considering how you can extend your efforts in the future. This can be a positive time to review your long-term goals in order to make certain they represent your true ambitions. The affirmation you enjoy today can inspire you to work harder than ever before in your personal and professional endeavors.

While the bulk of our motivation must come from within ourselves, the recognition we receive when we complete our midterm goals can ensure that our enthusiasm for our dreams never wavers. Knowing that others have found value in our endeavors and admire the work we have done can warm our hearts and help us understand the importance of minor and mundane achievements. The validation we receive bolsters our spirits and grants us a fresh wave of energy that we can draw upon when addressing our next task. In honor there is inspiration that can only be found when we allow ourselves to take pride in the accolades offered to us by loved ones, peers, and colleagues. You’ll draw strength and self-assurance from the appreciation you enjoy today.

I am only too aware of the fact that I seem to "draw strength and self-assurance (confidence) from the slightest bit of appreciation shown to me.  I find that when the things I do are obviously appreciated that I get more accomplished.  In this respect I am like a praise them for their good behaviour and they continue to display that behaviour.  Or is that puppy training?  LOL  I think it works for both.

However, I also realize that when the things I do seem to go unnoticed or taken for granted, then I find myself getting resentful.  Hmm, not sure that resentful is the word I want to use.  However, it's pretty close. 

Its just that I am a stay at home mom and housewife.  So many people seem to think that means that I sit at home all day and do nothing but watch tv and play on the computer.  Yes, the tv is usually on...I enjoy the background noise.  But then I also only have a 2 year old here for company, so for me it's almost like having another adult voice in the house.  I do my stuff here on the computer, but I usually try to get that done early in the morning before the wee one wakes up.  Otherwise I may not get to it.

The rest of my time is pretty much devoted to taking care of and doing for my family.  Generally, I do anywhere from 1-3 loads of laundry a day.  If Rylie is getting wild or having some of her bizarre tantrums or accidents, I could end up doing 5 loads of laundry, lol.  I make dinner almost every night, usually home cooked.  On Fridays we usually order out and call it my night off. 

I clean...usually when I first get up I do a light cleaning.  Then I continue to clean up after Rylie through-out the day and try to get her to help me so she can learn to clean up after herself.  I try to tackle at least one major cleaning job a day.  Whether it is dusting, scrubbing the appliances, getting on my hands and knees and cleaning the tile floors, doing the bathrooms, or whatever.

I try to spend sometime doing things with Rylie.  Playing learning games and whatnot.  Then there are the usual appointments, grocery store trips, and whatnot.  My day is pretty filled.  There are days when my "work" may be done at 5pm and then there are days when I am still going at 9pm. 

I don't know why I feel the need to sit here and explain the boring duties of my life as a housewife.  I guess because it seems as though the word "housewife" has somewhere along the line gotten a negative connotation to it.  Some people get the picture of someone like Peg Bundy, or something similar. 

Me?  I'm not exactly Mrs. Clever or Betty Crocker.  But I guess you could say they are women I would like to be similar too.  Some will say, or at least think, "where in the heck did she come from?!  Doesn't she realize it is 2006 not 1956?"  Yes, I do.  I realize there are lots of choices out there for me.  I have the RIGHT to do whatever I please.  It's just that being at home, taking care of my family, being with my child IS what pleases me.

Oh, don't get me wrong.  There are day's that I would like to be out among other adults having conversations with grown-up words that involve more than one syllable.  Day's where I feel like what I do isn't so important.  I do realize that I'm not setting the world on fire, curing cancer, or making a huge impact on society.  However, I don't need to make a huge impact on society, I just need to be here to make an impact on my child and family. 

If I can make an impact on my children, a positive one.  Then that is my true and best possible contribution to this thing called life.  Wow...I was really rambling there for a minute...not sure where I was going with this and then BAM! there it was.  LMAO, from a silly little horoscope all the way to my contribution to the world.

Well, that was exhausting.  But now I have to go do the dishes and get started on some of the laundry.
Have a good one.


trishaham said...

I think it is wonderful that you have the opportunity to be a stay at home Mom. I believe it is most beneficial not only for your family, But for you as well. Children are only children for such a short time. So forget those who think negetive thoughts about stay at home house wives and Mothers. What they think is irrelevant.

Have a wonderful Friday. (the 13th)


amyrangei said...

Oh I know what you mean.  My ex was embarassed to tell people I was a housewife so he'd lie about it.  That really pissed me off.  He thought I stayed at home and played computer games all day.  I think it was Oprah who once said that being a housewife was one of the most difficult jobs and yet we don't get paid for it.  I like to think my pay is having a clean house and happy kids :)